| As you ended your first marriage, finding another | | | | stepparent? |
| true love and getting married was probably the last | | | | Will your new partner come with a boatload of debt |
| thing on your mind. But, time heals most wounds | | | | and unpaid bills? Finances can be a problem and |
| and you feel your broken heart beating again | | | | it’s well to determine from the beginning who will |
| especially when a certain person comes around. | | | | pay for what. You might want to let your bank |
| You’ve gone through the obligatory mourning | | | | accounts marry too and avoid separate spending |
| period and being alone and experiencing newfound | | | | accounts. These sometimes lead to secretive |
| freedom is not as good as purported. | | | | behavior. |
| Are you ready for another marriage? Ultimately, | | | | A prenuptial agreement may be in order to protect |
| you must make that decision but search your inner | | | | your savings and your children. If you have children |
| self first with a lot of probing questions. Review | | | | and you precede your new spouse in death, your |
| your past performance and be brutally honest. | | | | children could be left with nothing if proper legal |
| Whose fault was the downfall anyway? What really | | | | arrangements haven’t been made. At the very |
| went wrong? How could I have been a better | | | | least have a will. |
| spouse? Can I prevent these things from happening | | | | Okay, you’ve made your decision and are ready |
| again? | | | | to take the plunge again; so what do you do now? |
| Don’t rush into another relationship too soon. | | | | As in all marriages, communicate. Talk things over. |
| Enjoy your freedom and take the time to adjust. | | | | Share your feelings. Don’t try to do things in |
| It’s not easy being along again. The silence can | | | | the new marriage just because it worked in the old |
| be deafening. Don’t tie yourself down again | | | | one. You are now creating new methods and new |
| just because you’re lonely. | | | | memories. |
| Second marriages, much like the first, can be very | | | | Start a new photo album and store the old one in a |
| challenging. Don’t think just because you now | | | | closet and out of sight. Don’t give a reason for |
| have on the job experience that the second time | | | | your new spouse to be jealous. Start new traditions |
| around will be easier. That’s not to say it | | | | of things you do together such as taking a walk |
| won’t either but it will take effort. | | | | after dinner or going out to your favorite restaurant |
| Know that in a second marriage you’re not just | | | | on a certain night. |
| marrying the person but all that person has become | | | | Choose things together, decorate together, cook |
| and what comes with that person, like baggage. | | | | together. Continue to be romantic. Know what each |
| Has your new partner completely severed ties with | | | | other expects and hold on to a positive attitude and |
| the former spouse? If children are involved this is | | | | expect the best. A second marriage could be the |
| doubtful. If you accept your new love you must | | | | best years of your life. |
| accept their children. Are you ready to be a | | | | |