| The good news about marriage today is that divorce | | | | but didn’t view them as problems. Why? |
| rates are down. The bad news is that an increasing | | | | There is more truth than not in the old saying that |
| number of marriages are unhappy. Couples endure | | | | love is blind. |
| an unhappy marriage for a number of reasons but | | | | You may have married in spite of your better |
| excuses usually include the children or they just hate | | | | judgment and hoped your partner would change or |
| to admit defeat. | | | | thought you could work your magic charm and |
| Marriages rarely die an immediate death. It’s | | | | change your spouse. This rarely happens. So, |
| like the guy in a movie who’s shot several times | | | | what are some of the signs of a troubled marriage? |
| but refuses to die. He stumbles and falls half a | | | | 1. No matter what you do, you wish you would have |
| dozen times and just when you think he’s fallen | | | | stayed at home and both of you are miserable. |
| for the last time, he gets up again and reaches out | | | | 1. You can’t do anything right and become afraid |
| for help. | | | | to do anything and withdraw. |
| Many times this describes an unhappy marriage that | | | | 1. The only time you can relax is when he or she is |
| hurts the husband and wife while they stumble and | | | | not at home and you can enjoy being yourself. |
| fall back but manage to hang on for one reason or | | | | 1. One is always picking up behind the other. |
| another refusing to give up. | | | | 1. This can be a major problem if bills go unpaid. |
| Divorce sometimes is a better alternative but only | | | | 1. It could also indicate that one or both of you are |
| you and your spouse can determine that. If getting | | | | involved in an affair. |
| a divorce is the decision, the sooner you deal with it | | | | 1. You on longer can agree on future goals and |
| the better you’ll become more emotionally stable | | | | refuse to discuss anything beyond tomorrow. |
| and able to cope with the situation. Divorces can be | | | | Either accept these qualities in your partner or seek |
| devastating on the entire family, especially if you let | | | | professional help. Qualified help can be found in |
| them linger before reaching an amiable breakup. | | | | person, in books or online. The sooner you seek |
| There are signs of trouble in marriage and | | | | help the better. Marriage problems can cause |
| they’re easier to resolve if you spot them early | | | | depression and anger affecting the entire family. |
| on. Small problems turn into big ones if you let your | | | | Watch for these signs of a troubled marriage and |
| emotions get out of control. You may have seen | | | | resolve to take action. |
| some of these signs of trouble before the marriage | | | | |