| Getting the right type of divorce advice depends on | | | | this type of divorce advice, you most likely have |
| what type of divorce advice you want and what you | | | | limited financial considerations, a prenuptial agreement, |
| want to use it for. When looking for advice about | | | | or the situation itself as amenable to everyone and |
| divorce, it is smart to clearly define what you are | | | | you just need someone to do the paperwork. |
| seeking the advice for so you can be sure to look in | | | | Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or counseling advice |
| the right places. | | | | regarding whether or not divorce is right for you |
| Seems simple enough right? | | | | from a psychological, emotional and financial |
| Yes, but...lots of people who are deciding about | | | | perspective. When asking for this type of divorce |
| divorce and seeking divorce advice lump the | | | | advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice |
| categories of divorce advice into one, and that's a big | | | | of an attorney or financial planner for the financial |
| mistake. You should seek divorce advice from | | | | considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical |
| different types of places for the different types of | | | | Psychology and "personal-life" coaching for the impact |
| advice that you need. Certainly there's more types | | | | that a divorce might have on you. Again, the point is, |
| of divorce advice categories, but here's a partial list: | | | | split the two concerns up so that you get a chance |
| Divorce advice type 1: Legal advice for getting a | | | | to speak to 2 different people who specialize in each |
| divorce when you are sure that you want a divorce, | | | | area so that you will get the appropriate divorce |
| no matter how tough it will be to get that divorce. | | | | advice. |
| When asking for this type of divorce advice while | | | | Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for emotional |
| meeting with an attorney, you may be asked if | | | | support when deciding whether or not you really |
| you're certain that you actually do want a divorce...if | | | | want a divorce or are just unhappy in your marriage. |
| you do, don't waver, stick to your decision. It makes | | | | This type of divorce advice is crucial to your |
| sense to have a good idea of all of the parts of your | | | | happiness because when you're in an emotional state, |
| life, family and materials, that could be affected or | | | | it is tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And, if |
| sought after. You want to have your facts, account | | | | you're wrestling with deciding whether or not to get |
| names, timelines, etc., in mind when meeting with the | | | | a divorce (purely from an emotional perspective), you |
| attorney so that your discussion is maximized. | | | | should do all you can to make a logical decision |
| Divorce advice type 2: Legal advice for getting a | | | | because how you approach this decision and the |
| divorce when you are almost sure that you want a | | | | affects afterwards can be long lasting and far |
| divorce, but want to make sure that the financial | | | | reaching. If you're are struggling with finding divorce |
| considerations are in order or that health of your | | | | advice, you may want to talk to friends, counselors, |
| children won't suffer in the long run. When asking for | | | | even other family members. |
| this type of divorce advice, you may want to | | | | But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself. |
| consider seeking the advice of an attorney or | | | | I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and |
| financial planner for the financial considerations and a | | | | possibly family. What I am suggesting is that you |
| counselor experienced in family matters for the | | | | reach the final decision of whether to get a divorce |
| impact that a divorce might have on your children. | | | | on your own, you have to live with it, no one else. |
| The point is, split the two concerns up so that you | | | | The answer is inside you, you just have to get it out |
| get the chance to speak to 2 different people who | | | | in a logical manner. |
| specialize in each area so that you will get the | | | | Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure |
| appropriate divorce advice. | | | | that you're directing your energies in the right |
| Divorce advice type 3: Legal advice for getting a | | | | direction. If you don't separate the emotional aspects |
| divorce in a case that is relatively simple and will be a | | | | from the legal aspects of divorce advice, you might |
| clean break, no financial or other family considerations | | | | end up confused and unable to get the most out of |
| to take into account for the divorce. This is perhaps | | | | any meeting you may have with an attorney or |
| the easiest type of divorce advice to get because it | | | | marriage counselor. At the end of the day, you |
| infers that you have already made the decision from | | | | should control your own destiny and make a smart |
| an emotional standpoint and really don't have any | | | | decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and |
| other considerations of deep concern. When seeking | | | | forward thinking. |